Philip St. Romain
How to Drop an
Symptoms of Attachment:
- 1. Anxious preoccupation: restless
- 2. Lack of serenity.
Quick Way to Drop an Attachment
- Notice anxious preoccupation and its
major themes. Verbalize these to God.
- If no immediate action is required, say
the Serenity Prayer, asking God to care for specific things not in
your control, and to give you the grace to trust in God's
Providence in your life.
- Bring your attention into the Now, and
do what you're doing. The anxious preoccupation will fall away in
short order if you do not indulge it behaviorally or
For Stubborn Attachments and Addictions
- 1. Notice preoccupation and its major
themes. Write these down.
- - - "I feel anxious about . . . because
- 2. Turn each theme into a
- "How can I be sure that. .
- "What to say to impress so and
- "How to be sure I will have enough
- 3. See how much this question has
influenced your thinking and behavior. Make a list of past
decisions and behavior related to this question. Ask God for the
grace to be free of this disordered desire.
- 4. See how this behavior has affected
you and others. Make a list.
- 5. Resolve to make amends where your
behavior in reference to this issue
- has hurt another. Ask God for
forgiveness. Sacrament of Reconciliation.
- 6. What real need (if any) is this
- 7. What is the appropriate or prudent
way to meet this need?
- 8. In your imagination, see yourself
meeting this need in an appropriate manner. Ask for Divine
Guidance to see how to do this, and to desire this kind of
- 9. If old preoccupations arise, see and
acknowledge them non-
- judgmentally, but do not indulge them.
This is the true meaning of abstinence. Bring your attention into
the Now, and do what you're doing. If it is time to meet your real
need in the manner you decided on in #8, go ahead and do so in
awareness and gratitude.
When All Else Fails
- After doing the above for some time, it
may become obvious that a compulsive attachment is so deeply
rooted that you need additional help. Do not hesitate to ask for
it. Help is available in the various Twelve Step groups and in
addiction treatment programs.