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Feeling unable to leave to. nest, or leaving it with bad feelings on both sides.
Feeling required or obliged to visit, telephone, entertain, chauffeur, or like.
Asking permission of a partner for anything,
including spending money. authority to speak, use of the car,
etc.
Invasions of privacy, such as looking through drawers and private
records of children or others.
Sentences like, “I could never tell him how I feel; he
wouldn’t like it.”
Falling into deep depression and severe immobilization after
the death of
a loved one.
Feeling committed to a particular job and unable to try
anything else.
Raving expectations of how a spouse, parent or
child ought to be, act. etc.
Being embarrassed by a child’s,
spouse’s, partner’s or parent’s behavior,
as if what they are is a part of what you are.
Being “in training” all of your life for a job or position.
never leaving the training phase for selfreliance.
Being hurt by what others say, feel, think, or do.
Feeling happy, successful, etc., only if your partner
is
feeling that way.
Taking orders from someone.
Allowing someone else to make decisions for you, or always asking for
advice before
deciding.
Being obligated to others because you depend on them: “I owe it
to them.”
Hot doing something in front of a parent or dominant person because
they wouldn’t approve. Not smoking, drinking, swearing, eating a
hot fudge sundae or
whatever, because of your submissive role.
Giving up on your own life when a loved one dies, or becomes
seriously ill.
Using careful language around a dominant person, so that they
won’ t be upset
with you.
Persistently Lying about your own behavior, and having to distort the
truth so that “they” won’t be upset with you.
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