1. I have difficulty saying “no”
when people ask me to do something, even when I know I should not
do it.
2. I reel responsible for the problems of others and the world
which I did not cause.
3. I have a hard time being good to myself. It feels so
selfish!
4. I put
others’ needs before my own, even when their needs are not
urgent and mine
are.
5. When other people give me approval, it he/p.s me to accept
myself.
6. When other people criticize something I do, I feel
like a failure.
7. I put off doing or saying things which upset people to avoid
“making a scene.”
8. In the areas of my life where I experience approval, I often
become over-involved.
9. If something I do is not done perfectly, I become
impatient.
10. When others point out an imperfection
in me, I become defensive.
11. If I am not in control of a situation
or project, I feel panicky.
12. I frequently compare myself with other
people to see if I’m OK.
13. When I’m around other people who seem to “have it
together,” I feel inadequate.
14. Deep down inside, I don’t really like myself, and I hide
this from others.
15. When I feel upset, I tend to blame and criticize people and
circumstances for my feelings.
16. I have a difficult time getting myself out of
unhealthy
relationships with others.
17. I sometimes compromise my values to stay in unhealthy
relationships with others.
18. I have a difficult time asking people to help me do things I
cannot do myself.
19. I often feel burdened with the attitude, “If I don’t
do it, then no one else will.”
20. My first reaction to a suggestion to try something new
is generally negative.
